Oddly enough, I don’t actually disagree necessarily with Mr. Soft Cat had to say today. However, due to the title of his blog, I can only assume that this is a “Hard” truth.
Mr. Soft Cat is more than welcome to correct me if I misunderstand what he meant when he used “hard” to describe the truth he would be telling. In fact, before going any further, I should make clear to Mr. Soft Cat and everyone else that I have no ill feelings toward him (although I am jealous of his shape changing abilities. And I imagine the cats that live with me would be too if they knew about it. I protect them from that particular Hard Truth). In fact, I see him as an equal and hopefully the feeling is mutual, for we both have the same goal - Seeking truth and letting the world know.
Mr. Soft Cat might be a fan of the German philosopher Immanuel Kant and specifically the part of his philosophy/philosophic writings where he discusses that man (and I believe that Mr. Kant was uses “man” as an umbrella term. I don’t support such generalizations, myself, though. But it was a different era then.) should ultimately seek truth, and opposed to many other well known philosophers who would emphasize happiness (in some form. Flourishing is closer to what Aristotle’s philosophy directed living creatures toward. But happiness and flourishing are in the same family, I would say.) Anyway, Mr. Kant believed quite the opposite. It was the imperative of a living creature to seek truth, but the more truth one discovered, the further from happiness one would get. In simple terms, the more you know, the more miserable you are. Perhaps a Hard Truth.
But I digress! The point of my writings is to help Mr. Soft Cat on his path, not to constantly criticism him. Now, that that is done, back to the the subject at hand!
A “hard” truth, to me, implies a truth that carries with it a certain weight. There is no joy in this truth, nor is there joy in passing it along (copying it along is more accurate, since you do not lose it once you “give” it to someone else. Simply spread it.) - it is a duty (Kantian?). But imagine “Truth” as a ball for one moment, now add “hard” to describe the ball. Now imagine having that hard ball thrown at you. It will hurt. That is essentially what a hard truth means to me and what telling a hard truth and receiving a hard truth feels like to me.
So, what am I getting at? Well, on one level “You will continue to do things you regret.” is a hard truth, I admit. But it’s the kind that only stings for a moment. Then you think about it and realize how beneficial this is. Regret kept uncontrolled will cripple you. Regret used correctly will push you to grow and change and become better. We learn from our mistakes. Yes, we’ll always make more mistakes and we’ll always make mistakes that we regret, but I say good! For perfection is not my goal nor is it my belief that it should be anyone’s goal. We will fuck up all our lives.
Be more of a punk, Mr. Soft Cat. Mistakes and failures and regrets are an important part of life. They’ll hurt sometimes. But take it. Own those fucking regrets and make them work for you. From regrets can life and all it’s beauty grow!
Even now, I have a feeling I will regret the flow of this post and my stream of consciousness style of writing. But I’ll ultimately end up saying “Fuck it! That’s who I am. I can harness my style, my voice. I can refine it. Mr. Soft Cat’s voice and style is succinct. That doesn’t mean I have to be! Or he has to write long paragraphs”
Be who you are. Yes, you’ll make mistakes in life that you will regret. Own your regrets. Take the power from them and put it to good use!